“We all have potential way above what we currently demonstrate and I could feel that James had unlocked a belief in myself about what that was.
Over the past 3 months things have progressed nicely. I don’t feel intimidated by beautiful girls any more. I just see them as girls, who happen to be good looking.”
We met in James’ apartment in Bondi. I really didn’t know what to expect. I’d thought about doing a Bootcamp for nearly 2 years but due to various life ups and downs I had never made a firm decision to go ahead with it. I’d never been too keen on doing a Bootcamp in my home town. I think I always felt a necessity for anonymity, which I can now see is an indication of how much I needed to let go of failure in this area of my life in general.
So, when I happened to be passing through sydney I decided to get in touch with James and take the opportunity while I had it. Now, there were two problems with this for me. Firstly, it was a spur of the moment decision. And in hindsight I feel I would have taken much more away from the weekend had I had some lead up to it. I just didn’t feel prepared and hadn’t been in the game for quite some time. Secondly, I had recently split from my girlfriend. This had all happened quite messily and whilst I felt that a Bootcamp would be just what I needed to get me moving again, the confusion I had around the breakup was still all quite fresh in my mind. I’ve never been one to be able to shelve emotions on demand, So, again I feel this had an effect on how things went at the time.
Now all that said, it’s now 3 months down the line, and whilst at the time these two factors were ever present in my mind, I can now see that the gains were just going to arrive a little later than expected.
So, we started day one with some role play. We were assisted by James’ Female Trainer. She was a major highlight of the course and the work we did with her was probably the most beneficial to me out of the whole weekend.
James ran through most of the method and we discussed a lot of the philosophy behind how he teaches. He definitely knows his stuff and I could see that the many references that he made to girls he’s been with are just a natural part of his life. A bit like some people talk about football. James talks about beautiful women he’s slept with. I liked this and felt it was indicative of how much he lives and breathes what he teaches.
In the evening we went out to a busy bar just outside of Bondi. It was good to be out in the field but I was quite nervous and feeling the pressure a bit. James spent some time looking for good sets. We started with some of his patented warm-up exercises. These were great for me and I could see how up-tight I was beforehand.
We went inside and it was interesting watching him work. He won’t just go for girls that are “there”, he makes a point of searching the room for ideal opportunities, not being obvious about what we were doing, and picking natural groups to approach.
He opened a set and got me in. This was great because it took away the initial anxiety and allowed me to practice the open-ended questions and other techniques we’d been working with earlier in the day.
This was a nice introduction and I felt happy with how it went. After that it was up to me to open the next set. I was fighting a battle with myself in my head. Looking back I was expecting failure, which is not the way to go. And most of the sets I opened ended up not going according to plan. But I can see now why this was. I set myself up for it and let myself down. But I always go with the belief that when something doesn’t work out as planned, the lessons I learn from it more than make up for the emotional payoff at the time.
Day game – this is something i’ve never done before. I was pretty unsure about it. But James lead us through some more warm-up exercises which again helped me get into a good state.
We did practice approaches in a bookstore. This was great and I felt quite confident about doing this now and very happy with the subtleties of the technique. Key points from this were that it has to be real. People can sniff fakes a mile away. So, always open on something you’re actually interested in and things go easily from there. After the practice approaches I did some for real. The first couple were difficult for me, but after that something just clicked and it became a lot easier.
I started to feel much more confident and able to “control” the conversation. This was probably the major breakthrough of the weekend for me. The realization of how I felt about this definitely caused a big change in me. If I go in feeling high-status, I feel like I have a right to be there, a right to get answers to my questions.
So much so that just a few days later, I opened a girl in the same bookshop, got her number, dated her for lunch (she paid!) and ended up in a bar with her later. I have never done anything like this before so I was pretty amazed at myself.
The evening of day two we went to a big club in sydney. I felt a lot more comfortable with all this now. Interactions went much more smoothly and I just felt much more confident and higher value than before. James was always on hand giving feedback, helping with opening and talking about social dynamics in the club.
Again, ever an asset, his female trainer was there to dance with and just generally help with the social proof of being around an attractive girl. James was also very good on his work with energy and getting people interested in our group by bringing in other girls. He knows a lot about this and it really opened my eyes to how social dynamics works in that sort of environment.
We finished the weekend off with more practice approaches in James’ apartment. Again, I found this very useful and felt I had improved a lot over the weekend. We talked a lot about his theories on energy, food and nutrition, coffee shop approaches, escalation, body language, approach styles, moving the girl to be in a more powerful position, touch etc.
This was all great and I learned a lot from it. We went for lunch a number of times over the weekend, as well as clothes shopping, and above all else it was good to see the way james talks to the assistants, waitresses etc in these environments. He can command a lot of attention and it really shows.
So, after the weekend I felt different, but not totally changed. But I expected that. I’d seen a lot and taken in a lot of information and I felt like it was going to take some time to develop. But that was great, I had seen glimpses of what I was capable of and I’d seen a lot of demonstrations of what other people are capable of. I’m a firm believer that we can all achieve what we want if we want it enough. We all have potential way above what we currently demonstrate and I could feel that james had unlocked a belief in myself about what that was.
Over the past 3 months things have progressed nicely. I don’t feel intimidated by beautiful girls any more. I just see them as girls, who happen to be good looking. This is something I never used to feel at all. And I see them as the kind of girls I would be interested in being with, not just somebody I would look at across the street.
I touch everybody and I’m pretty good at it now. I can see how it makes people feel at ease and it feels strange, somehow disconnected, if I don’t do it. Interactions feel a lot more natural and I can connect quite quickly with people. So much so that recently I’ve noticed girls saying to me things like, “you know I hardly know you at all but I’m just going to tell you all this personal stuff about me”, and, “I can’t believe I’m telling you all these things”. I like this and it’s one of the main benefits I wanted to get from the course – to be able to make people comfortable opening up to me and establish good connections. I’ve slept with the hottest girl of my life, and a few others who were all a pretty good standard.
As a final note, James has been great following the course. He helped me out with some personal problems. All of which I’ve been very happy with.