“This has been the best investment I’ve made in my entire life…
I feel like I got some special keys to a special room that I could see into that precious few guys get access to…
I actually believe with every cell in my body that this investment may well be the difference between me having an ok life or an average life – but I think you’ve opened a door James where I think I could have an extraordinary life.”
OCCUPATION: OCCUPATIONAL THERAPIST
LOCATION: BRISBANE, AUSTRALIA
Peter: When you showed me what it would feel like, from a female perspective, to have a guy who can do that physicality and do that power spin – when I could see it in the moment and feel it and then when you gave me the opportunity to do it on you – and I could see that the questions didn’t matter so much, it was just so powerful. To have that eye contact and to feel that – to feel what that might be like – I felt like I got some special privy to a special room that I could see into that precious few guys get access to. I said to Ivan, “If we can master that, we’ll be the only two guys doing that at Cloud Land in Brisbane!”.
And, also I pushed Rebecca, in the last 20 minutes, when I kept going up and kept going up and kept going up and kept being in my head and kept thinking, “I’m just not going to get this. There’s something wrong with me. I’m just not smart enough or I’m just hopeless. I can’t even go up and talk to two women! What am I doing!? What is wrong with me?”. And I kept going and I kept going and you stayed patient and you stayed patient.
And probably the final thing that I would say is I actually believe with every cell in my body that this investment may well be the difference between me having an ok life or an average life – but I think you’ve opened a door James’ where I think I could have an extraordinary life. And I want to say thank you of that and for the amount of effort you’ve put it, which I can tell.
I have two moments in the course that I think I’ll always remember, for the rest of my life. One was when I sat with Ivan at lunch two days ago and I said to him, “I think that I’ve just built layer upon layer upon layer for something to hide behind around a fear of rejection. And I tried to analyse and analyse and come up with something that would give me a full proof way of never facing rejection”.
I thought that I was inadequate or deficient or undeserving. I’ve realised through comments that you’ve made and you’d made that there is not such thing as perfection. It’s isn’t a Rubix Cube that I’m going to be able to analyse and solve and be safe. And when I realised that I just have to let go, it was a moment of massive awareness for me.
The second was you’re understand of what I had to do to enhance my performance in terms of getting out of my head. And the way in which you had me do that, where you forced my into the bathroom to sing in front of Rebecca, yourself – there was a girl on the couch, Kathy – and the other two. I thought, “Oh, I really don’t want to do this. I don’t want to make a fool of myself. I don’t want to be humiliated”. But I knew that if I pushed through that moment I would come out more of a man. And I knew too, when I went in the cab to Surry Hills, and you said, “Sing to the cab driver! Bohemian Rhapsody, in French!”. And every single part of my body said, “I don’t want to sing Bohemian Rhapsody to a cab driver going to a Surry Hills hotel”. But by forcing me to do that what it meant was that every other social challenge that I faced for the entirety of that evening suddenly shrunk. I had significantly less anxiety with making my approaches and going up to when. In fact, i meant nothing to me that I might go over and fail.
The most precious thing I got from the entire course came from you Rebecca, when you said to me on the couch, “This is something that.. all we’re going to do here is improve you skills. There is no product, there’s nothing for you to analyse to become. This is around a skill set. This is about you getting better a communicating with women. This is about get you able to get into conversations”.
James: Just one observation, how much more handsome is he now?
Rebecca: Way more! I thought that too.
James: Look at his face. Look at his eyes. It’s like, lighting might be helping a little bit, but it’s night and day.
James: It’s unbelievable
Peter: Well, I’m pleased that my physicality has changed.
James: I think you are.
Rebecca: You are. You’re much more handsome.
James: The colours are right. Yeah, but I mean, it’s just like we’re talking to Peter. Not some mask that Peter is wearing.
Rebecca: Yeah, the real Peter.
Peter: This is probably the sexiest I’ve been in my life (group laughs). Right at this moment. Right now.