“Yes, I can do this. Yes, I can be myself. I’m much happier. Much better frame of mind.
It’s just putting yourself out there, “Hello, this is the real me. Hello, this is who I am. Hello”.
You’re much freer.”
For me, I wanted to use the boot camp to basically springboard myself back from slumpy bit in life. So I was coming from a bit of a negative place when I came here and seeing how well Steve and Peter were doing, I was actually felt in a more of a negative place was actually sort of felt I was bringing everyone done. I was being quite…didn’t feel like I was giving much which was frustrating me. I felt like I was letting everyone else down. I felt like I was disappointing you guys because you guys are so helpful and passionate about all this sort of stuff. I was feeling like giving enough.
This morning I think when I realized what I wasn’t, realized some of the things that were holding me back, immediately I just felt like, you know, I feel more alive now, I feel energetic, I feel like I want to go and talk to people and so,…you know when we starting doing…because you guys have been saying , “Oh, you’ve got to touch them, you’ve got to touch them, you’ve got to touch them,” and when I finally went, “Oh, that’s what was holding me back .” Once we started doing those exercise in there, it was straight away I was just like, “Oh, this is how you do it. It’s a process. it’s not a problem at all.”
Once I start doing that, you actually feel…I felt more confident again, I felt like, “Yes, I can do this. Yes, I can be myself. I’m much happier.” I felt more natural and I would have never been able to do that on my own I think without having this opportunity with you guys, just trying to hammer it into me, hammer into me and forcing me to question, why isn’t it happening? So that was excellent.
I think I had a second ah-ha moment too in great cafe and there was thisgorgeous woman and I could tell she was into me. I could tell she liked me. You could tell. So I had this little strategy. I was, “Okay, well when we pay and then we’ll do this and do that.” And while I was strategizing I didn’t realize I missed the opportunity that was right in front of me. So she was there waiting for me to talk to her, waiting for me to talk to her, making herself available, standing there for no particular reason and I’m thinking, “All right, when I pay the thing I’m just going to”and she got sick of waiting and walked away. Seeing that moment, because Jamie you talk about there is a small window where you’ve got it and then it’s gone. Once I saw that it was gone I sort of realize, ah, you’ve got to stop strategizing, stop being in your head and when it’s there, you just got to take it. So it’s more you’ve got to be in the moment. It’s more about, “There’s your dream. Now, now.” So that was really good.
Something really good that you said to me Rebecca, I’m not sure if I’ll be able to say exactly the words that you used, but it’s the same sort of thing when I was saying I couldn’t find the opportunity to touch the woman. I was waiting for the opportunity and I couldn’t quite get it. You said, “Because there is no opportunity. The opportunity is not going to be there. You have to just make it,” and that’s when I sort of realized, yeah, I was kind of hanging in the breeze, looking for the right…just hesitating, waiting, strategizing but you just got to dive in and that’s the whole thing. It’s just that you, you’re being a man, you’re going in, you’re getting what you want and that’s how it’s done. You’ve just got to act on it. So valuable, very, very valuable. So I really appreciated that.
In terms of value for money, I wouldn’t even say it’s worth even thinking about how much I paid for it. I mean, these are sort of things that you get…these are life skills that, you know, if you didn’t have them you’d be there going, “What did I do in my life? What the hell just happened and what was the point of all that?” but I think when you start to…I’ve got a real opportunity for some fulfilling happiness in my life, for the rest of my life and not just for me but for my family, for you know my partner, my children, all that sort of thing. Then suddenly it’s…money is just, the cost is irrelevant. So yes I think whatever you pay, it’s worth it.
I guess I plan on just throwing myself in there. I guess from this weekend I’ve got a much greater sense of freedom about life and I think the other thing, I’m not sure if I’m going a bit off track here, but the story you were saying Pete about the conversation you had with Rebecca and Jamie about a guy can just take a women and, you know, if he’s an exceptional man and all that sort of thing, for a moment I had a bit of a panic going well if it was a woman that I love and was so in to, that would be my whole world and that would be terrible. I realized, you know, there’s no security in life. There’s no guarantees and all that sort of thing you’re always vulnerable. But to know that and be okay with that, suddenly you’re, yeah, I don’t have to cling on to anything. I don’t have to, what’s the word? Have a security blanket. Because there’s just, there’s no security. Yeah, you’re much freer. You just learn to go with it. Much better frame of mind.
So I think in that regard then, it’s getting out and just being involved in life a lot more and social activities a lot more and just meeting people and just putting yourself out there, “Hello, this is the real me. Hello, this is who I am. Hello.” That’s a huge part of life, it’s a huge part of your quality of life. I guess my sense it’s making a commitment to maintain that quality of life and improve I guess which is the story that I’ve had for the last 12 months has been I get a lot…I created, promised things and didn’t deliver and you suddenly realize, well, that’s not worth much. This is what you do it for; it’s to have those relationships and that mindset about yourself. Yes, so for me that’s taken priority and that’s one thing you want to keep nurturing in life.