“If you have a genuine interest in getting good at any skillset you need a coach. [James and Rebecca are] coaches in social and emotional intelligence.
I would say that social skills, social awareness and emotional intelligence as I call it which aren’t taught, is the number one skillset that would certainly improve people’s quality of life.
Yeah just a terrific time, I thoroughly enjoyed it.”
James: What was the best thing about the Bootcamp for you?
Steve: Learning my identity. The penny dropped for me when you told me as far as my situation, how you’d perceive me with the, you know, the masculinity and all the bits and pieces because it might seem that it’s obvious to me but it’s actually not because like I said I’m used to getting a certain type. I’ve had girlfriends or an ex-wife and been going out there. I seem to be getting shit tested a lot and I just really don’t understand that from. Because I don’t look at myself as being a big macho guy, I don’t look at it that way. I actually look at it as like a caring, nice bloke who like I said likes animals, wants to help people, believe in karma, I don’t lie, I’m honest. So all of a sudden I’m in a group, there were women and that are shit testing me. It’s like why are you doing this? You know, yeah.
Well it’s social awareness for me and emotional intelligence and my point in life are probably be the most important skillsets that I can have. It’s not just about meeting women, picking up women, it’s about being able to be independent and go places and become friends with multitudes of people and if you’re introverted and you don’t have any emotional intelligence then people don’t like you and it’s certainly to me, it’s a lot better the more friends that you meet and obviously to do that you need to have a set of skills and the ability to do it So that’s the skills that I’m chasing and I would put that as number one on the hit list. To me that’s more important than money. As Nimal said you know, you don’t really get taught this at school. My father certainly never taught me this; no one ever taught me this. So basically it’s great to have you guys who teach this otherwise well you’re not going to learn.
James: So you might have touched on this but highlights of the Bootcamp?
Steve: Highlights, yeah three highlights, one with Rebecca and the Female Trainer in there, that was a highlight for me. Yeah, the penny dropped there. That was good, kept on asking questions and talking for them. So that was good and one of the other ones was to think of three open ended questions, I’m still thinking on that. I think I got the fitness one covered but I’d like to get one with the adventurous bit in there like the jet skiing and the water sports but I’d like to also get a third one in there where it’s not so much, you know, the masculine stuff and the macho stuff, it’s the fact that I’ve you know got a brain and I’ve got a, you know I’m interested in art or you know I’m interested in doing stuff that the right side of the brain is capable of, you know, creative things. So and that’s why I’m looking forward to doing the improv classes, if we can find someone there.
And the other highlight was that, which I didn’t take badly, I’m not very good during the day. I’ve got 48 years of social conditioning to say that you don’t walk around during the day saying hello to women, which is unfortunate because I’ve worked out that maybe the best women that you can meet is probably during the day because there’s going to be a lot of smart attractive girls who just aren’t going to be, you know, going to night clubs tripping over their high heels and being pissed and maggoted. So the day time is the best time but I’ve got, like I said 48 years of how I grew up is that you just don’t talk to girls during the day, you go pubs and you meet them. So that’s my sticking point there.
Yeah, so that’s a hard one for me actually. Yeah, that was real difficult and I mean I know I said because when you said about the business book, I still found it hard I was just, like if I could just think of something that was just a little bit more congruent, yeah. Because I’ve come from like a couple of months of learning all this, these routines and stuff and I’ve been the act and it’s made me feel sick to my stomach because it’s just, yeah, you get to a stage where you feel like you’re lying it’s not authentic and so yeah. But certainly yeah, that was one. I view that as a great thing because like I said I tend to have this idea you learn more in defeat than you do in winning. Yeah, so, yeah. I’m not after the wins or the glories, I’m after the defeats and after the critical analysis where I go wrong. So I can go practice and I’ll get that.
James: In terms of in terms of value of money, $3000?
Steve: Yeah, great value. No way, yeah, certainly, yeah great value. I got your time, got Rebecca’s time, you got Female Trainer’s, you’ve got people getting bits and pieces, it’s a big organization, it’s a lot of stress to you guys, cause you’ve got guys like me who’ve got no sense of direction, who’ve got no sense of punctuality, who turn up late; who get lost. So you know it’s that in itself, you know that itself is worth three grand having to babysit me. Yeah, so. So yeah, that three grand is certainly, in my opinion, great value. Yes.
James: How happy are you that you did it?
Steve: Out of 10? 10. Yeah absolutely, yeah tremendous, yeah. It was great. I think having the practice sessions with the ladies; I thought that was just great. It’s just great being put under social tension and out of your comfort zone and just drilling it and doing it until maybe you never lose the anxiety but you get to the stage where you control the anxiety. You know I find that about martial arts competition. You never lose the anxiety if you go and compete but you do get to a stage where you can control it. How else are you going to do it without practising and you’re a perfectionist. Do it again, do it again, do it again and I really like that and the enthusiasm. Yeah so, yeah. No other way of doing it.
James: If you picture a friend of yours who could really benefit from this?
Steve: I would explain to him that my experience that if you have a genuine interest in getting good at any skillset is that you need a coach. So I would say to him that you should pay the money and its well worth it and go and see Rebecca and James, that’s what they do. They’re coaches in social and emotional intelligence. Yeah. That’s what I’d say.
Just terrific all around. Just wish I could have turned up on time. Yeah. Just wish I’d stop getting lost, yeah. Obviously, I’m not going to make an astronaut imagine going to the moon I’d end up in Mars. What if they walked into their cockpit in Qantas I’ve got to do some navigating for them.
Yeah just a terrific time, I thoroughly enjoyed it yeah. It was all ups for me. Yeah, you know I had my downer with the bookstore but I never looked at that as being a downer, that just highlights where I’ve got to get that going.
I would say that most people on this planet probably tend to get involved into relationships because they feel that that’s the best that they could do or the circumstances that they’re in, but if they had a set of skills where they knew they could go and meet a hundred times more people, they could possibly end up with someone who is so compatible, so good for them compared to the 50% divorce rate that’s going on in the country. That’s what I’d say. So I would say that social skills, social awareness and emotional intelligence as I call it which aren’t taught, is the number one skillset that would certainly improve people’s quality of life.